Over the years I have learned a lot about mental health. Today I want to share some of the things I have learned about mental health. The feeling model, or as I like to call it the wheel of feels. Before I get started, I am no professional. This is only things I have learned through the years of dealing with mental health in my life. Always seek professional help if needed.
Everyone feels emotions.
The human body has developed over the years in ways that can only be described as amazing. Our body’s can respond to external stimuli and protect us events like a stove eye being on when we touch it. The reason for this is simple. The nearves that interconnect our body to our brain travels through the spinal cord first. Then the lower part of our brain. Then from the lower brain to the mid brain, the emotional part of the brain. Then the frontal part of the brain, the logical part. Once it’s at the logical part it can go back and forth from the mid brain. This is where the the wheel of feels comes into play.
The Wheel of Feels
The event is whatever triggers the emotion. This can be internal or external. Internal examples can be chemical imbalances, thoughts, memories, and much more. While external can be a manager threatening you, a client screaming at you, pending failure and much more.
Interpretation is how we interpret the event. This has a tremendous influence on what we feel next. This is where self talk, reasoning, “wise mind” comes into play. It may feel like this step is high jacked from time to time with the event begin beyond our reasoning. The truth is our body makes that reasoning first. If it is beyond our skills, we go to the feeling next. See, the event happens, crosses the lower brain, to the mid brain. The lower brain can skip the mid brain, but often times does not. Thus, we normally skip this part. Sometimes we come back to it with the wheel itself. I’ll get into that with the action urge.
This is where we feel what we feel. This is where you can feel your heart rate go up. This is where you can feel the anger boil inside. The sadness drag us down. This is where the emotion happens. It’s our job to look at this in a nonjudegmentally way. Say that ten times fast. The idea would be to find the underlining emotion. Anger is often times hurt or embarrassment. Depression is often guilt or shame.
Once we start to feel, the action comes next. However, this is the big part. This is where we choose to take action and what action. Going with anger here makes since. At this point you can use that anger to do damage or rotate it back inwards and ask why. This is where you can go back to interpretation and change the feeling. Almost every time you can go back to interpretation. That is the action which leads to the results and event. Fast tracking it back to interpretation. Then we can move on and work through the emotion and resolve it correctly. However, you can also choose to act upon the emotion. Anger could come out in all kinds of ways, hitting someone, drinking, drugs, yelling, destruction, etc.
This is the action of action urge. Simple. This is where you lash out or choose to go back around the wheel to work through the emotion itself.
The results of the action may trigger another event. For example, you hit someone, they hit you back, bam new event, new feelings. You have a chance to change the even at interpretation and action urges. At this point, another event is ready to start.
The take away
As someone who struggles with Depression and PTSD, a lot of the events I deal with are internal. Self doubt, negative thoughts and feelings, memories, and much more. I have a chance to reason with them, sometimes, chemically doesn’t allow interpretation. Sometimes I have to choose to go back to interpretation over and over again at the action urge. I have to stop and break free from that cycle. There are different ways you can do this and they are called groundings. These can be external or internal. Externals are like claps, smells, pain, etc… Internal are questions, what does this say about me and so on so forth. The wheel of emotions is powerful and our goal is to go through the the reasoning steps as much as possible.
Thank you for your time. If you have questions feel free to ask. I’m no professional, nor do I claim to be. This is just things I have learned throughout my life time.